I'm 35 today...35
|*Actually I'm 34 in this photo but thought it looked better then my yoga pants, baby-spit-up-sweatshirt, post-partum-breastfeeding-balding hair & no energy to wear makeup look I'm actually sporting as I turn the big 35*|
While each birthday brings with it reflection, for some reason this number, unlike the other's in my 30's, seems like a big deal. Like it's closure on one phase of my life & onward & upward to the next. In 35 years I've had some pretty outrageous moments, like skydiving, travelling the world, making a fake press pass & sneaking back stage to meet Ricky Martin, giving a Ted Talk & of course, becoming a momma to 3 hooligans. But like anyone, I've also experienced some heartbreak, snicker-induced-stressed-up-moments & challenges.
But through it all, the tears & the laughter, one thing remains, I'm beyond grateful for my life, my story, what I've been given. So, I thought I'd share some things I do, that I truly think have made my life what it is...
- Be honest. With others & with yourself.
- Kiss your babies every night and as much as you can...Even though by bedtime they are driving you mad, snug them, love them, just be with them.
- Say thank you - It means a lot to people and you should appreciate what others do. Even if that is passing you a coffee in a drive-thru window - Thank people.
- Cherish those you love - Maintain friendships that are important, call your parents, love your siblings.
- Have an open mind to ALL things...Trust me, life is so much more interesting that way.
- Be silly - If riding the grocery cart like a skateboard to your van makes your kid giggle, who cares what the woman parked next to you thinks.
- Make things happen - Take risk - You only have one life to try.
- Read novels - Get lost in a book, it's good for your soul.
- Be interested in people...Really interested - Barbara Walter's the crap outta them, because everyone has a story to share.
- Apologize if you need to - If you're a twonk, recognize it and fix it.
- Drink wine, beer or gin. Something - Have a good go to drink!
- Flirt...Not in a sexual way but in a charming way.
- Realize life is never going to be what you pictured it and that's a good thing, a really good thing.
- Get angry, mad, sad or whatever at God/Fate/Karma or Whomever. Shout if you have to, cry if it helps. It's okay to grieve things before moving on.
- Help others - Do things for other people. Try to be the change the world needs in simple ways.
- Eat dessert...ALWAYS!
- Be genuine and real.
- Realize you're body, those wrinkles, that baby ponch is all a part of you now. It's not going away so learn to embrace every wrinkle as a laugh line, dress to fit your body so that you feel good & if ya can, do a crunch here and there.
- Do things that you normally wouldn't or that make you uncomfortable - Live abroad, join a new group, do something creative - Sometimes the very best of things come when painting outside the lines.
- Embrace, recognize and celebrate the differences within yourself and in others.
- Believe....Whether that's in God, Miracles, People, the goodness and hope that's out there - Whatever it may be just believe in something greater than yourself.
- Trust your momma gut when it comes to your babes...From how you parent them to how you fight for them.
- No Judging - EVER- literally...Who cares what other people do, love, believe, etc? Focus on living your life and that alone.
- Find your purpose...It's life changing when you do.
- Love your Home Team more than anything else on the planet...Work to always be the best Home Team you can be.
- Realize life can change instantly - so chillax, take each day, each moment one step at a time.
- Fight for something - stand up for something you believe in, advocate for people who need it or join others in a cause that's dear to your heart.
- Work hard at whatever you are working at.
- Let go sometimes and just be.
- Laugh...Laugh...Laugh...At yourself, others, anyway and time you can.
- Dream Big....Why not? Strive for things outta reach - A book, Ellen, more projects why not?
- Be the type of person you'd like to be friends with.
- Ask for help when you need it. I know it's hard, trust me, but let others use their time, creativity & talents to help you.
- Dance...At least once a day, in the van driving with your kids around, in the kitchen slow dancing with your husband, or have a little sway while you make dinner. Music, even if it's Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, is good for your soul.
- And finally think of one thing a day to be grateful for.