5 things I know to be TRUE as a Mum...



Couldn't have said it better myself Mrs. Lange...If I'm being honest here though, I'd like to share 5 things I know to be TRUE as a Mumma...



1: Not everyone grows up wanting to be a mumma...

I can't say I'm one of those gals who always wanted to be a mum...Sure I played "house" {Biz, Laurs & Focks know a lot about this} as a little girl,  and "babied" my little brother, but in my later teens and early twenties I wasn't really even sure I wanted to have kids...I so madly desired to travel and see the world that I was content doing just that... The thought of so much responsible, the fear of labour and my own plain selfishness, all deferred motherhood for me...{SideNote: I think one's life & one's selfishness at times is a good thing and will touch on it in a later post- But for now, it's important to note that I think a girl should be selfish at certain times- For me, doing exactly what I wanted, made me become independent, curious about the world & others, and able to take care of myself- Again another post for another time but I'm quite passionate about it, cause I think it's very important in one's life. One of the 4 things I preach- Aretha baby!!!}

Then I met Craig and as mentioned in this post... My whole world shifted...I went from living this weird gypsy life to settling down in a very small town...And then I started clucking...Everyone around me started having babies & I started clucking like a big old mumma hen...ShoutOut here though to those brave woman who truly know themselves & know that Mummy~Hood is not for them- I applaud you for knowing & living your life to your true self...I honestly thought I was going to be one of you's...




2: You give all of yourself & your body- I mean all of it!!!

So, I knew once I had a baby my life would change...It's inevitable- And yes it changes in all the ways you imagine...You lose that selfishness & your world literally revolves around your babies- their your everything, yada-yada-yada...I knew all that to a certain degree- what I didn't know was how much I'd change as a person...

In my defence, maybe it's having two babies back to back with no chance to getting the old me back - But now here I am... Exhausted to the point I don't really ever know what time or day it is...I'm knee deep in anywhere from 10 to 15 diapers a day...I'm so use to cutting everything from cheese to apples in bite size cubes, that I make myself lunch that way now...I smell most of the time like spit up or baby lotion, I can't remember the last time I wore perfume...I live in sweats or I will admit it, 4.5 months post pregnancy, I still slip on a pair of maternity jeans for comfort & to hide this silly little ponch I got going on...And on the rare occasion I do squeeze into my old, regular jeans, I'm in & out of those as soon as possible- that goes for wearing a bra also- Only when absolutely necessary...I have a ponch of a belly that just won't seem to go away on it's own like it did with my first baby...And my hair is falling out leaving thin lifeless locks with wee fine baby hairs growing & sticking up all over the place...


Mummy~Hood definitely takes any part of vanity out of you...A few years ago I wouldn't leave the house, with how I'm looking these days- But, it's funny, in certain ways I feel more beautiful than I ever have...I feel stronger as a person, more confident as a woman & in all reality, I am probably blinded by it all, because I'm so bloody busy thinking & looking at how cute Noal & Pip are...



3: It's really not exaggerating- Going to the grocery store alone is a highlight for a good long while...

What is alone time anymore? I'm the type of person who honestly enjoys spending time with myself...I have to say I think I am quite fabulous so I've always enjoyed doing my own thing...Before we had kids, I honestly use to call some of Craig's friends to "babysit" him on a weekend night so I could have the night to myself...He use to love that, let me tell you...

Anyways gone are the days, I can read a novel, spend hours at a salon {I haven't dyed my hair since January- atrocious I know} or go shopping alone...I'm so behind in most things I used to love...Movies- sheesh because I PVR everything now, I have no clue what's coming out & I haven't physically been to a theatre in years...Music- no idea who sings what, who's who or anything...But I sing a mean Franklin theme song & If You're Happy And You Know It...As for a social life or having some drinks- heck I use to live for nights like that- But, getting prego & breasfeeding Noal & then getting knocked up with Pip right away- I haven't got all buzzed up on mojitos in like 3 years...So, an "outing" these days is double strollering it to the grocery store with the two hooligans...And then feeling great about it, cause I actually managed to get myself & 2 babies ready & outta the house for a bit...


Living the dream over here y'all...

4: You will become OBSESSED with your children & adore being a mum...


The thing is, as tired, smelly & sometimes frustrated as I am with Mummy~Hood, I've honestly never been happier..Noal & Pip make me feel more alive than I ever have before...I simply adore them and being their mum...I'm utterly obsessed with them both...Everything they do, amazes me, makes me smile or needs to be photographed or on video...

I also now realize why my parents are so obsessed with me & my brother...I get it now Mum...

I've found such deep purpose in it & truly feel honored giving this incredible task to raise them...Nothing in all my travels, in all my adventures or in all my anythings really has made me feel what I feel to be a mum....Such a fierce love...



5: Us woman, Us Mums, we are damn extraordinary...No one can do what we do...

Big ShoutOut to all you Mummas...Being a mum is incredibly rewarding, utterly exhausting & the most selfless thing one could do...We are extraordinary- All of us...

It honestly is the hardest job in the world & we do it with love, joy & gratefulness- The past few rocky months with Pip have given me such a inner-strength that I couldn't have gotten anywhere else without being in this vulnerable state of Mummy~Hood...Giving her up to surgerons twice in her 4 short months of life, thinking we were going to lose her to heart failure & all our stays in the hospital, brought with it a level of strength & determination I would not have gotten anywhere else- So, in a way I am thankful for all that we've been through- I feel like one-hell-of-a-mumma & hope one day my hooligans realize the love I have for them...


We are amazing, us woman, us mums...We don't give ourselves enough credit but what we do day in & day out is something to be celebrated...


So, all that being said, Happy Mum's Day ~ I hope y'all felt as special as I did...The hubs tried to let me have a sleep in but Pip woke up at 5:30ish & was cooing all morning- I didn't mind as I'm just so bloody thankful she's here & laying beside me at all...Just as I went to take a little video of her cooing, this cuteness came busting through the door...{Please ignore my overly peppy excited voice in advance}



I am a happy mumma who felt pretty damn special today- Thanks little family- I love you's...And Craig that eggs benny might have just about been my favourite ever...Definately in your top 10, Dougie...


Here's a sample of that no-makeup, slept with a 4 month old so smell of milk & spit up look I was telling y'all about...Enjoy!

3 comments:

  1. Anonymous13.5.13

    Tara, did I ever laugh reading about wearing sweats, flats, and not seeing the inside of a theater in years! So true! Being a mom is a new kind of beautiful that other moms can understand and that our husbands love more than ever! Love ya, Renee

    ReplyDelete
  2. I can hear you telling me to grab a life, but T you look freaking stunning in that last pic of you and Noal in bed.
    Loved this post xo

    ReplyDelete
  3. Renee, definately a new kind of beauty for sure & Birninette- Grab a life...Love you

    ReplyDelete